Here is a scenario:
You’re interviewing for a job, and the interviewer asks you where you see yourself in five years, but you don’t have a real answer.
You stare at him or her and actually wonder if you will be working at this company five years from now.
Some might find their calling quite quickly, but for some, they could spend their entire lives searching. Chances are, at some point or another, many will wonder where they will be in five years or more.
So, I took an unorthodox path into the military and through college. So now at 30, I still find myself asking where I will be in 5 years. I will give you my advice for dealing with that indecisive dilemma.
We all know the career fields that make money. Since we are children, we are driven toward them; it’s why so many kids want to be doctors or lawyers.
Nobody is ever told that the simplest job is capable of being more than a job (career). In early adulthood, the struggle is not finding and keeping a job but rather going from a job into a career (some elusive transition). There are probably two factors to an unsatisfied career choice.
1. The money (As in money is the primary motivator).
2. You can’t decide on your passion.
The one people often struggle with the most is when they’ve decided that they are not going to work for the money. Rather than be motivated by money they are searching for their own desires, and they can’t seem to figure out what those desires are. This transition from 1 to 2 isn’t an easy transition.
Chances are you have a lot of different skills or passions. This is normal as we are not one dimensional. So how do you know what you want to do? You don’t. I’m sorry if you thought I’d give you the answer to your own problems but I don’t know how to help you outside of telling you that not knowing what you want to do is not a problem!
There are some of us who get lucky and have a broad range of passions or skills that can be focused; then there are those that don’t. If you want to be financially responsible, you might have to find a few of these passions and stick with them, but it’s possible to live freely on the whims of your desires.
I’m 30-years-old, and I’ve recently learned again that just because I’m good at something doesn’t mean I have to pursue a career in that field. The same applies to everybody, don’t mistake talent with desire.
It wasn’t until the topic of Warren Buffet came up in my office the other day that I realized how unhappy I am currently working here. I remembered something I read about him in terms of how he prioritized his life. He said to make a list of the 25 most important things you want to do in your life, do the top five and discard the rest; it allows you more time to do the ones most important to you.
I’m not a fan of anecdotal lessons although I’m aware that this entire blog is anecdotal. The reality, life is an anecdotal experience from many different perspectives.
The biggest lesson you should take away from here is not about transitioning your motivations for career choices, it’s not about your skills or talents, it’s not even about the ability to narrow down your most important things in life. The biggest lesson is that even after you’ve done all those things you might still be lost and that’s okay.
It’s not about wasting time, rather it’s about pursuing those passions when you have them. So if you pursue one and it lasts 5 years before you transition again or 20, the point is that you are living based on the true desires of yourself. If it takes you 30 or 40 years to find out what you are really passionate about, don’t fret, at least you found it and now you can dedicate the rest of your life towards that endeavor.